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Posted 2021-10-31

The Thinker (Rodin)
The Thinker, Rodin

A few thoughts (some profound, some not) that may be of interest to you.
If you have any thoughts that you would like to share with your Wynford
Tower neighbours, please send them to webmail@wynfordtowerresidents.ca
We'll show your name unless you say no.

The Trouble Tree, from Facebook 2021.09.12
Residential Schools, by Jim Bissell
Wisdom from Dubai, rec'd from Billie 2021.06.07
Flowers and Philosophy, rec'd from Annie 2021.02.15
Love Is, rec'd from Elizabeth 2020/07/25
A Reassuring Message, rec'd from Glen 2020/07/13
Dirty Laundry, from Facebook 2020/06/15
Face Masks Are Effective, The Star 2020/06/14
Covid-19 and Technology, 2020/06/12
Life Is a Journey
To Destroy Mine Enemies
Churchill on Democracy
Believe / Doubt
Four Kinds of Bones
Wheel of Life

The Trouble Tree, from Facebook 2021.09.12
I hired a plumber to help me restore an old farmhouse, and after he had just finished a rough first day on the job: a flat tire made him lose an hour of work, his electric drill quit and his ancient one-ton truck refused to start.

While I drove him home, he sat in stony silence. On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands.

When opening the door he underwent an amazing transformation... His face was wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss.

Afterward, he walked me to the car. We passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me. I asked him about what I had seen him do earlier.

'Oh, that's my trouble tree,' he replied 'I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing's for sure, those troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children... So I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home and ask God to take care of them. Then in the morning, I pick them up again.' 'Funny thing is,' he smiled,' when I come out in the morning to pick 'em up, there aren't nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before.


Residential Schools, by Jim Bissell, Posted 2021.07.17
Preamble, added 2021.10.30
A writeup by a Jim Bissell describes the humane treatment provided to non-indigenous people by religious teachers, and can be compared to the treatment of indigenous people at Residential schools, where the outlook of staff followed in the traditions of the Crusades and the Inquisition, in which people of other faiths were treated as heathen, to be taught the True Faith by force (or death in the two examples). All without recognition of the fact that the indigenous religions and philosopy were more Christ-like than that of the Christian Church attempting to convert them.

An interesting result of Googling Jim Bissell is that the Bissell Centre (Bissell Centre.org) in Edmonton was funded through a legacy gift by a Mr. Torrance E. Bissell. A quote from the website says, "Because of its history with Aboriginal people, Bissell Centre was presented with an Eagle Staff in April 2009. This is one of the highest honours the First Nations people bestow, and it is because of Bissell Centre’s acceptance, promotion, respect and interest in Aboriginal people that it was gifted with an Eagle Staff".

It is not known at this time if there is any family connection between the two Bissells.
End Premble)

Following is a slant on residential schools different from most in the news these days. The author is not indigenous, but grew up surounded by indigenous people. He attended schools run by the Catholic Church, but not Residential schools, so his viewpoint may not be representative of those who did.

This is a bit long, but interesting.

Here is a letter by an indigenous-related person named Jim Bissell, which he wrote in reply to a Sun columnist related to the “Residential schools” that is leading to church terrorism (by non-native people). Below that is one account by a survivor of a residential school that does not support Mr. Bissell's feelings.
2021.10.31: Article deleted because it was offensive to some people.
The following excerpts from the Truth and Reconciliation Report give a different outlook (Ref. Residential School Survivors)

“I thought that I was the only one that it was happening to.”
The mandate of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission species that the Commissioners shall not name names in their events, activities, public statements, report or recommendations, or make use of personal information or of statements made which identify a person, without the express consent of that individual, unless that information and/or the identity of the person so identied has already been established through legal proceedings, by admission, or by public disclosure by that individual.

In keeping with this instruction, this report does not identify or name alleged perpetrators of sexual or physical abuse. In instances where Survivors spoke of individuals who have been convicted of abuse, those names have been included.
While reports of sexual abuse were common, it was far from being the only type of abuse experienced by students. In many cases, a single student described many dierent types of abuse they experienced. Jean Pierre Bellemare, who attended the Amos, Québec, school, said he had been subjected to “physical violence, verbal violence, touchings, everything that comes with it.”

Andrew Yellowback was at the Cross Lake, Manitoba, school for eight years. ”During that time, I was sexually, physically, emotionally, and mentally abused by both the sisters and brothers.” Some students were abused at more than one school. Students reported assaults from sta members of both the opposite sex and the same sex as themselves. For many students, abuse, fear, and violence dominated their school experience. Sheila Gunderson recalled there being “a lot of physical abuse and sexual abuse” at Lapointe Hall, the Roman Catholic hostel in Fort Simpson, Northwest Territories, in the 1960s.
Given the power relations in a residential school, no sexual relationship between a sta member and student could be considered consensual. Many former students spoke of having been raped at school.542 Stella Marie Tookate, who attended the Fort Albany, Ontario, school, said, “I didn’t enjoy myself when I was in school because I was too much abused. I didn’t learn anything; that’s what I was feeling.” Her words echo the experiences of many former students.

Wisdom from Dubai, rec'd from Billie 2021.06.07
Subject: Fwd: Wisdom from Dubai

The founder of Dubai, Sheikh Rashid, was asked about the future of his country, and he replied, "My grandfather rode a camel, my father rode a camel, I ride a Mercedes, my son rides a Land Rover, and my grandson is going to ride a Land Rover...but my great-grandson is going to have to ride a camel again."

Why is that, he was asked? And his reply was, "Hard times create strong men, strong men create easy times. Easy times create weak men, weak men create difficult times. Many will not understand it, but you have to raise warriors, not parasites."

And add to that the historical reality that all great empires...the Persians, the Trojans, the Egyptians, the Greeks, the Romans, and in later years, the British...all rose and perished within 240 years. They were not conquered by external enemies; they rotted from within.

America has passed that 240-year mark, and the rot is starting to be visible and accelerating. We are past the Mercedes and Land Rover Years. Camels are on the horizon.

Flowers and Philosophy, rec'd from Annie 2021.02.15
Note: The beautiful flowers between each verse in Annie's email are omitted here.

We never get what we want,
We never want what we get,
We never have what we like,
We never like what we have.
And still we live & love.
That's life...

The best kind of friends,
Is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with,
Never say a word,
And then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

It's true that we don't know
What we've got until it's gone,
But it's also true that we don't know
What we've been missing until it arrives.

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they’ll love you back!
Don't expect love in return;
Just wait for it to grow in their heart,
But if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.

It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone,
An hour to like someone,
And a day to love someone,
But it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

Don't go for looks; they can deceive.
Don't go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile,
Because it takes only a smile to
Make a dark day seem bright.
Find the one that makes your heart smile!

May you have
Enough happiness to make you sweet,
Enough trials to make you strong,
Enough sorrow to keep you human,
And enough hope to make you happy

Always put yourself in others' shoes.
If you feel that it hurts you,
It probably hurts the other person, too.

The happiest of people
Don't necessarily have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for
Those who cry,
Those who hurt,
Those who have searched,
And those who have tried,
For only they can appreciate the importance of people
Who have touched their lives.

When you were born, you were crying
And everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so that when you die,
You're the one who is smiling
And everyone around you is crying.

Please send this message
To those people who mean something to you,
To those who have touched your life in one way or another,
To those who make you smile when you really need it,
To those that make you see the brighter side of things When you are really down,
To those who you want to know
That you appreciate their friendship.

And if you don't, don't worry,
Nothing bad will happen to you,
You will just miss out on the opportunity
to brighten someone's life with this message...


Love Is, rec'd from Elizabeth 2020/07/25
Love is . . .
What Love means to 4-8 year old kids ...

Slow down for three minutes to read this.

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, 'What does love mean?'

The answers they got were broader, deeper, and more profound than anyone could have ever imagined !

See what you think:

'When my grandmother got arthritis , she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time , even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love.'
Rebecca- age 8

'When someone loves you , the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.'
Billy - age 4

'Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.'
Karl - age 5

'Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.'
Chrissy - age 6

'Love is what makes you smile when you're tired.'
Terri - age 4

'Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.'
Danny - age 8

'Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and just listen.'
Bobby - age 7

'If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate. '
Nikka - age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

'Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.'
Noelle - age 7

'Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.'
Tommy - age 6

'During my piano recital , I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.'
Cindy - age 8

'My mommy loves me more than anybody You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.'
Clare - age 6

'Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.'
Elaine-age 5

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.'
Chris - age 7

'Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.'
Mary Ann - age 4

'I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.'
Lauren - age 4

'When you love somebody , your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.' (what an image)
Karen - age 7

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross..'
Mark - age 6

'You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.'
Jessica - age 8

And the final one:
The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.
Upon seeing the man cry , the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard , climbed onto his lap , and just sat there.
When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor , the little boy said, 'Nothing , I just helped him cry'


A Reassuring Message, rec'd from Glen 2020/07/13
Hi. You may have seen this before but if your mind is as fuzzy as mine from the heat and stress of the news it might be refreshing to know you aren't losing it. I certainly did! Cheers.

In the following analysis the French Professor Bruno Dubois, Director of the Institute of Memory and Alzheimer's Disease IMMA) at La Pitié-Salpêtrière - Paris Hospitals, addresses the subject in a rather reassuring way: "If anyone is aware of his memory problems, he does not have Alzheimer's".
    1. I forget the names of families.
    2. I do not remember where I put some things. It often happens in people 60 years and older that they complain that they lack memory. "The information is always in the brain, it is the "processor" that is lacking."
This is temporary forgetfulness.
Half of people 60 and older have some symptoms that are due to age rather than disease.

The most common cases are
    - forgetting the name of a person,
    - going to a room in the house and not remembering why we were going there,
    - a blank memory for a movie title or actor, an actress,
    - a waste of time searching where we left our glasses or keys.
After 60 years most people have such a difficulty, which indicates that it is not a disease but rather a characteristic due to the passage of years. Many people are concerned about these oversights hence the importance of the following statement:
    "Those who are conscious of being forgetful have no serious problem of memory."
    "Those who suffer from a memory illness or Alzheimer's, are not aware of what is happening."
Professor Bruno Dubois, reassures the majority of people concerned about their oversights:
"The more we complain about memory loss, the less likely we are to suffer from memory sickness."

Now, for a little neurological test.....Only use your eyes.
1- Find the C in the table below!

2- If you have already found the C, then find the 6 in the table below.

3- Now find the N in the table below.
Attention, it's a little more difficult!

If you pass these three tests without a problem:
    - you can cancel your annual visit to the neurologist.
    - your brain is in decent working shape!
    - you are far from having any relationship with Alzheimer's.
Share this with your over-60-friends, it can be reassuring.

Dirty Laundry, from Facebook 2020/06/15
A young couple moved into a new neighborhood.

The next morning while they were eating breakfast, the young woman saw her neighbor hanging the washing outside.
"That laundry is not very clean; she doesn’t know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap."

Her husband looked on, remaining silent.

Every time her neighbor hung her washing out to dry, the young woman made the same comments.

A month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband, "Look, she’s finally learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this?"

The husband replied, "I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows."

And so it is with life… What we see when watching others depends on the clarity of the window through which we look. So don’t be too quick to judge others, especially if your perspective of life is clouded by anger, jealousy, negativity or unfulfilled desires.

"Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are." — Jonathan Kestenbaum.

Face Masks Are Effective, The Star 2020/06/14
Toronto Star, 14 June 2020
The most effective weapon in the war on COVID-19 is as plain as the mask on your face, U.S. researchers find.
Patty Winsa
By Patty WinsaData Reporter
Sat., June 13, 2020timer4 min. read

Wearing a mask is the most effective way to prevent transmission of the coronavirus in public settings, and together with other measures such as social distancing and contact tracing “represents the most likely fighting opportunity to stop the COVID-19 pandemic,” according to a new study by a team of U.S. researchers.

“Other mitigation measures, such as social distancing implemented in the United States, are insufficient by themselves in protecting the public,” they wrote.

The study — by experts from Texas A&M University, the University of Texas at Austin, University of California and California Institute of Technology — compared transmission of the virus and preventative measures in New York City and Italy, where mask-wearing became mandatory part way through the pandemic.

They found that after masks were required, New York reduced infections by 66,000 from April 17 to May 9. In Italy, they were reduced by 78,000 from April 6 to May 9.

“What we believe is that if you impose the use of face masks and you do it properly, it is potentially a way to control the pandemic,” said Mario Molina, a distinguished professor of chemistry and biochemistry at the University of California, who shared the Nobel Prize for chemistry in 1995.

After masks became mandatory, New York reduced infections by 66,000 from April 17 to May 9, according to a team of researchers from Texas A&M University, the University of Texas at Austin, University of California and California Institute of Technology.

In charting the number of cases in New York City and Italy over time, Molina said the line was headed straight up until it began to bend on the exact day that mandatory mask policies came into effect.

“It is extremely clear that it is much more important to make the use of masks mandatory than just isolating and social distancing, (because) you can decrease cases much more efficiently,” Molina said.

Unlike social distancing, masks protect against inhaling droplets as well as virus-bearing aerosols, which can hang in the air for hours, added Molina, lead author of the study along with Renyi Zhang, a distinguished professor in atmospheric sciences at Texas A&M.

Molina said an upcoming study that compares the impact of wearing masks in U.S. states where they have been mandated shows the same clear pattern, and he believes it should be compulsory in all public settings until the virus is wiped out. The peer-reviewed study was published in the National Academy of Sciences journal in the U.S.

In Ontario, meanwhile, more than 200 doctors have signed an open letter from #Masks4Canada asking for mandatory face coverings in places where it’s impossible to social distance — including public transit and any indoor space outside the home. The TTC announced this past week that masks would become mandatory for transit users as of July 2.

But the province did not adopt the requirement when it announced stage two of its reopening, which means people can socialize without masks on restaurant patios in some parts of Ontario, as well as gather in groups of 10, as long as they socially distance.

Premier Doug Ford said it’s up to municipalities to mandate masks, which they have the right to do under section 22 of the Health Protection and Promotion Act when there is the immediate risk of an outbreak of a communicable disease.

Dr. Nicola Mercer, medical officer of health for Wellington-Dufferin-Guelph, issued the order soon after the stage two reopening was announced, requiring businesses in the area to prohibit customers who aren’t wearing masks. That health unit has “ongoing modest evidence of community transmission” of the virus, but Mercer added there were signs of physical distancing fatigue and declining mask use within the businesses that had remained open.

“As more commercial establishments (and other amenities) in our region open under Phase 2, it was important to look at all measures that can be implemented to keep the population safe while supporting the reopening of the economy” until there’s a vaccine, Mercer said in an email.

She also pointed to the “growing body of evidence looking at the impact of face coverings on the COVID-19 pandemic in addition to other important measures such as physical distancing, hand hygiene, extensive testing and case and contact tracing.”

Covid-19 and Technology, 2020/06/12
-----Original Message-----
From: cjfitzgerald
Sent: Friday, June 12, 2020 5:36 PM
To: WynfordTower Webmail
Cc: Bill Lynn
Subject: Covid-19 and Technology

It was said that covid-19 would accelerate the development and use of technology. And it is doing so.

Regarding ZOOM

It so happens, a boy living in Bermuda, in third grade, doing online studies and activities, doing math, learning chess and other activities and projects.

A couple of weeks ago, the class was told they were soon to learn about bees.

Well, one family member, living in Toronto, is a bee keeper as a hobby. He was invited to give a presentation about bees, to the classroom, in Bermuda - via ZOOM.

By chance, the day before zooming was to take place, it was Jeff’s turn to look after the bees, on top of the Royal York Hotel, and the Science Centre, in Toronto.

He was stung twice but said they were small stings. The bees are animated in springtime because bees from other hives are flying around trying to join other colonies. They have to get along. He even took a video of bees in action.

Presentation day - this boy Kai, in Bermuda, had the honour of introducing his Uncle Jeff, in Toronto. The children were fascinated and were not swarming around the room at all. At question time, Jeff thought all questions were sensible and easily answered, except one “if there is a queen, how come there is no king?” They were told something to the effect that Queen bee rules the nest and all the other smaller bees are worker bees.

The kids were most interested in travelling bees. They go out to find flowers that have syrup on their petals. The bees suck up this sweet stuff into little pouches. They bring this back to make honey. The pollen is collected is small baskets on their body.

This little experience would certainly happen in future, and it will, but not last week. Technology has accelerated, thus changing the world and enriched my life.

Also is said ‘technology was blamed for promoting isolation, now is lauded for enabling socializing.’

Cecile Fitzgerald

Life Is a Journey
Received from Mary Persaud 2016-11-06
Life is a journey and as we travel our experiences create memories.
Memories make us who we are.
Our experiences may be burdened with challenges.
If, however we overcome these challenges with grace and integrity
we can turn our experiences into stepping stones.
So as we travel through the journey of life
let us create memories of which we can be proud.

To Destroy Mine Enemies
Abe Lincoln (1809-1865) Copied from Summerlea.ca/thoughts

Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them?

Churchill on Democracy
From Goodreads.com/quotes/267224
Winston S. Churchill — "Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others."

Believe / Doubt
"Believe those who seek the truth. Doubt those who find it."
André Gide, quoted in the Montreal Gazette, Dec. 24, 2000

Four Kinds of Bones
Copied from Summerlea.ca/thoughts

Someone has said that membership in every organization is made up of four kinds of bones:
1. There are the Wishbones, who spend all their time wishing someone else would do all the work.
2. There are the Jawbones, who do all the talking but very little else.
3. There are the Knucklebones who knock everything that everyone else tries to do.
4. Finally, there are the Backbones who get under the load and do the work.


Copied from Summerlea.ca/thoughts

"Politeness is half good manners and half good lying." Mary Wilson Little
as quoted in The Montreal Gazette Aug. 17, 2001 (www.montrealgazette.com).

Wheel of Life
Quote by Louisa Papatie, speaking in Algonquin at the hearing of the
commission looking into reasonable accommodation of immigrants.
From the Montreal Gazette 16 September 2007
Copied from Summerlea.ca/thoughts

"Everything is related to the circle, the wheel of life. It's the unity of nations.
No religion is better than another, no culture is better than another."